In the UK we often thrive on having something to moan about – I think the new dating app Hater, which matches people best by what they hate, is going to go down a storm. Well done Brendan Alper, a good moan over a cup of tea or something stronger unites us. On that note: here is my rant for the week.
I think we are going a bit far blaming Facebook for people’s poor mental health. Seriously, next we will be banning romantic comedies because they are a marriage-wrecker. Let’s get a bit of perspective here.
Yes – often people only post the good stuff. The stuff that they want people to see. Facebook captures short moments in life. We all have moments: perfect, sad, happy, passionate, euphoric, painful, mundane, frustrating, amazing moments.
I like to keep it real on my blog, which I share on Facebook. Facebook has brought more than 45,000 visitors to my website. I love Facebook. Many of us would be lost without it. I like to remind my readers that people who post smiley images all the time still get stressed. We all have our own issues to deal with. Sure, I post images on my personal Facebook page of my husband and I smiling at a special event. Perhaps he has his arm wrapped around me and we look happy. That doesn’t mean we don’t argue over stupid things like sleep deprivation, housework, priorities, mobile phone usage, our mixed options about general life.
I also post images of me cuddling my kids. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to scream and pull my hair out when they trash the house and make so much noise. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to run away some days when I am so shattered and just need some time to do anything.
Getting out the house with kids – it’s harder than the Crystal Maze challenge. I don’t post those pictures, though. I post the pictures when we are out having fun.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel normal but let’s not shame people for being happy either. Happiness is a beautiful thing. A happy soul glows.
JoJo Fraser is a mental health ambassador and author of the popular blog mummyjojo.com