JoJo Fraser: This is real life, not a performance

The Duchess of Cambridge spoke about the rewarding yet challenging aspects of being a parent. Picture: Getty
The Duchess of Cambridge spoke about the rewarding yet challenging aspects of being a parent. Picture: Getty
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I was moved by the recent speech from The Duchess of Cambridge about both the rewarding yet challenging aspects of being a parent. This week I captured a beautiful images of my kids, they looked happy and extremely cute. It wasn’t that way ten minutes before I snapped the picture. They were screaming at each other over a toy. It was so loud and it gave me a headache.

It is normal to have days like that, kids provide us with all sorts of challenges. I often find my head in a spin as I try and focus on ticking things off my long list. The noise levels can get so intense. Then there is the mess.

JoJo Fraser is a mental health ambassador and author of the popular blog mummyjojo.com

JoJo Fraser is a mental health ambassador and author of the popular blog mummyjojo.com

If they are not leaving bowls of half eaten cereal lying around then it is toys. They love jigsaw puzzles at the moment – the more pieces, the more mess. I can live with that but my husband not so much. He likes to make a tidy home his priority. I often have to push to get my point across – we are not living in a showhome, it’s our family home. It’s chaotic and lived-in. There are moments we shout, moments we laugh and of course moments we cry. Life is busy, it’s fun but it is not perfect.

Some days I work from home. When the kids are away I cherish the simple things like a nice coffee by the laptop in peace. I cherish having the dining table clear and all to myself. I often put a scented candle on next to my laptop. Just because I can and I don’t have to panic about my two-year-old pouring hot wax all over himself.

Whilst I love rare peaceful moments, I am aware that one day I will look back on this crazy, rewarding and challenging period and desperately long to have it back. Such a typical ‘’grass is always greener scenario”.

I know I am blessed. That’s why I proudly posted that beautiful image of my kids on Instagram. The moment I captured of them snuggling nicely together on the sofa was the brightest shade of green. I cherished it. I won’t share the images in the day where the shades of green go a bit nasty. I will however try my best to be open and honest about them. It’s OK to not always be OK.

JoJo Fraser is a mental health ambassador and author of the popular blog mummyjojo.com