With it being Mother’s day tomorrow, I have been thinking about how much my little girl is starting to understand of the world.
She will start school this year, which blows my mind. I can’t believe I will soon be sending her out into the big wide world.
Given the headlines this week, that terrifies me slightly. It also excites me, because while a lot of bad things happen, the world is also full of so much good and so much fun.
Speaking of fun, my little girl properly understands Mother’s Day now and she told me I deserve to be pampered. I am not going to complain. Bring it on.
I asked her what she wanted to get me – I am prone to spoiling surprises. She replied “Mummy, I want you to have the most amazing cake because all mummies deserve cake”. This made me smile. So I introduced her to one of Edinburgh’s finest, Jessie Pollock who runs Jessies Magic Oven (link -https://www.jessiesmagicoven.co.uk/). She makes some of the most beautiful cakes I have ever seen and apparently they taste amazing. I am just as excited as my little girl. I am also equally clever – I often buy my husband Champagne or a spa day for two as a gift (we both benefit).
I used to secretly beat myself up about how much my body changed after I had kids. I am working on an awareness project that I can’t wait to share soon. It’s for all the perfectly imperfect mothers out there. We are often far too hard on ourselves.
Over the years I have learnt to love my stretch marks. My daughter calls them magic marks, she sees my body for what it is. An incredible vehicle where she and her brother grew. She looks at my body in amazement and wants to know where her head lay and where her feet kicked me.
I was very lucky to take part in a photoshoot with the extremely talented Karolina Anilorak from Anilorak Photography (www.anilorakphotography.com). She captured the bond between my daughter and I perfectly. The images from the shoot will always mean the world to me. My message to all the mothers this weekend who beat themselves up – have a bit of cake (or five). You are incredible and you deserve it.
JoJo Fraser is a mental health ambassador and author of the popular blog mummyjojo.com